Is It Appropriate To Go Out With A Friend Of The Opposite Sex While Married Or In A Committed Relationship?
Thursday, May 6, 2010
, Posted by Sandra Chat at 5:54 PM
My husband being a photographer and me being an actress, there were quite a few ground rules that had to be discussed and agreed upon before the relationship could go any further. Considering that we were both industry folks and networking was essential to the overall development and success of our careers, we had to be very careful how we interacted with individuals; especially those of the opposite sex. Trust was always the number one factor. Although my husband's profession requires him to be around all types of females (models, actresses, make up artists, stylists , etc.), he understands at the end of every work shift; there was a time to punch out and go home. Some business relationships turned into friendships but guess what? If she's my husband's friend then its most certain that she's my friend as well. And if she wants to go to the movies or dinner then we will just be double dating or it'll be the three of us. I just don't seem to understand the reasoning behind why one would think its alright or even want to go out to a movie or dinner for that matter with out your mate present. Business is one thing but socially?
With that said, there will be scenarios in which you will have to use your best judgment. After all, you and your mate will have friends of the opposite sex. And if a friend from the past comes into town and wants to meet up for drinks or dinner, you must know how to handle the situation. At times it may be harmless and other times it can truly affect your relationship. Trust is key.
Do you agree "Sandrachat Viewers"? I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions.
My mind is telling me no, but my body (I'm a man) is telling me yes. Therefore-my final answer is NO. I've learned through experience not to tempt myself. We are not as strong as we think we are. I have female friends who I've known longer than my lady and would sometimes want to hang out with them without her being there. I either resisted the urge to do so, or did so without her necessarily knowing! I didn't lie to my girl persay, I just didn't tell her the truth (I know I know..it's about the same) The relationships I had with females other than my girl is sometimes so strong, or close, that I could see my girl feeling a little awkward or questioning certain conversations or behaviors if she was aware. I guess like you said, it depends on the relationship, but in my relationship it just had a tendancy to feel uneasy or raise eyebrows. I figured, no other girl was worth MY lady feeling uneasy so there were no 'play dates' or 'friend dates'. I will say, I had some type of attraction at one time or another to many females I hung out with without my girl. I may not have tried nothing physical, but flirting can be detrimental. Overall, I think married couples should double date, or hang out with friends of the same sex. Even in doing so however, it's better when those friends are married as well, or well on their way there. Pride, lust and temptation can be stronger than will power. Great Question! - Napoleon
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