Why Do People Cheat?
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
, Posted by Sandra Chat at 11:09 AM
People cheat for many reasons:
1. They're not happy in their relationship
2. They're not satisfied or they become bored and want to try something new
3. They're too afraid to break up with their significant other so they cheat in order for the other person to break up with them.
4. They just like having someone on the side.
The bottom line is that people cheat because they can and they will. We're all capable no matter how faithful or in love we believe we are. The important question is not why do people cheat, what you should be asking yourself is "How do I keep my man or woman from cheating"
1. Love, Respect, Trust and Honesty are key.
2. Its the little things that count. Now I know you've all heard this before but how many actually believe it and pay attention to it. Examples of little things are love notes, looking good for your man or women (attire, personal hygiene, hair etc.), keeping your promises, Just because appreciations (do things for one another not for any particular reason), and lastly compliments are always welcomed and appreciated.
3. Know your man or woman's value. Don't ever think for a second that you're all that and that you're man or woman would never leave you. Chances are if you have a worthy man or woman, someone out there is waiting to snatch them up.
I'm just loving your blogs Sandra. These are real issues that women are constanly going through and trying to fight everyday.
-Edwige-
Thanks E.
You're right. Women do struggle with these issue on a daily basis but so do men. What I would like my viewers to understand is within a relationship it takes two people not one person to make it work. So if your partner cheats and you've done all in your power to make it work, then they were just not that into you to begin with or they lost the sparks they had.
I never thought I would cheat, and then I did. I was wrong..but it felt so right! So I did it again..and again.. I was selfish. I wasn't in love. I cared for my girl, but obviously cared more for my lustful pleasures. There was nothing she could have done to prevent me from seizing the opportunities. She was totally oblivious and completely undeserving. And to think, I've been cheated on before and knew how it would feel if she were to find out. None of that mattered. All that mattered, was the fulfillment of my desires. I was a different person then. Do I regret my actions? No. I enjoyed them. And My girl was none the wiser. I had my cake and ate it to so to speak. I just hope Karma got lost in the salt water ocean of my baptism, and I can escape the pain of ever being cheated on again. Can you really avoid being cheated on? I don't know..but there was nothing my girl could have done save not ever being my girl in the first place. C'est La vie, -J. Martial-keeping it 100.
Thanks for your comment J. Martial.
Your case is a classic example of why a large percentage of cheaters cheat. Although the reasonings behind why people cheat are endless, it's never ok. It is for this reason I stress the importance of love. A person with a loving spirit will not cheat. And the person whose been cheated on will love themselves enough and know their partner enough not to allow it to happen repeatedly.