I'm Single & Successful Yet, I Can't Find A Good Man/Woman. Why?
Thursday, July 30, 2009
, Posted by Sandra Chat at 10:46 AM
Because you're searching too hard. Stop Looking!!! This may sound a bit harsh but it's the truth.
As a married women, I can honestly say that God will send you your mate when you least expect it and at the most inopportune times.
Now a days, people are so preoccupied with online dating and night clubs and social events that they lose themselves in the process. How many times have you hooked up with a guy/girl after meeting them at a night club and they look totally different during the day? How many of you met this wonderful guy/girl online and have great conversation but when you finally decide to meet in person, they look totally different from their picture, their personal hygiene is an issue or my favorite, there were just no sparks?
The reason for this is too many people are putting up a persona to impress the other individual and when their true personalities unleash they clash. Now I'm not saying that these avenues won't work because they just may for some people; I just want you to understand that you'll have a better chance of meeting your mate when you do absolutely nothing but be yourself and allow the laws of attracting to bring you together. I recommend learning about "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. The Secret talks about a lot of things but one important advice it mentions is learning to control your thoughts and words. The bible Proverbs 18:21 again, it says that "Death and life are in the power of the tongue" .
With that said, stop walking around saying things like:
1. "I'm never going to find a good man/woman". You are absolutely correct if you keep saying that.
2. "All men are dogs". Not all men are dogs but if that's how you think, you'll continue to attract dogs.
3. "Women are all gold diggers" Not all women are after your money but if that's how you think, then those are the women you'll continue to attract"
4. "All the good ones are taken". You're a good one and you're not taken so stop thinking/speaking that way.
5. "I've tried everything and just can't find the right one". Stop trying. Your way hasn't worked so put your request in the To Do box for God and let him do his thing.
I can go on and on but the bottom line is your words and thoughts are manifestations. Believe it or not, every man/woman that you encounter have been manifested into your life by your own thoughts and words. I challenge you to think/speak positive about your future mate and watch how miraculously they come to you.
Great post. Believe in your thoughts, like this post says; forget the words (don't, no, I can't, it's too hard) and replace them with the opposite, but you have to align yourself with your thoughts in order to see results. I love this blog...
Thanks for your comment World Eco Vision,
The more you're aware of your thoughts and words the easier it will become to position yourself to receive the blessings Gods' already ordained for your life. Anything that you believe in is possible of achieving. It's up to you to determine whether its something positive or negative.
I really love your blog Sandra,it helps me a little bit in my situation.
Thanks for your comment Anonymous,
It is people like you that makes what I do worth while. I'm glad I was able to assist you in some way. If there are any topics you would like me to address, feel free to send me a post and I'll be glad to do so. Stay encouraged!