When Its Time To Break Up With A Friend.
Monday, August 3, 2009
, Posted by Sandra Chat at 11:21 PM
It is time to break up with a friend when the bad out weighs the good. It is time to break up with a friend when you feel more hurt then joy. It is time to break up with a friend when there's no more trust. It is time to break up with a friend when all you do is give and receive nothing in return.
When friends change for the worse it hurts. It hurts because you want to hold on to all the great memories you've once shared and ignore the lies, deceit and betrayals but you cant. Or perhaps you're the one that changed. You no longer want to part-take in activities that you once thought were cool or fun and you're now being criticized of thinking you're better than they are. The friends that become envious may be the most difficult to cope with because you expect them to be happy about your new promotion, engagement or baby announcement but to your surprise, they're not.
There is one thing in the world that you cannot change and that's the past. So embrace it for what it was and let it be just that; the past. The future however, is determined on the choices you make today. We are all responsible for how people treat us. Whether they are long time friends or you've known them for a short while, you must never compromise your beliefs, morals or standards to keep a friendship from deteriorating. Continue to pray for them and never stop loving them. Accept the change for what it is. Learn to let go and move on.
How do you break away from an old friend? Is it the same as breaking up with a girlfriend/boyfriend...
Good Question Anonymous
Breaking away from an old friend depends on a few things. Do you share mutual friends? Do you live in the same city where you'll run into them often? Do you eventually want to cut all ties with this person or would you like to have some communcation access in which you're able to keep up with whats going on in there life?
There are a few ways to address this situation but the most simple answer is this...stop calling them. If they call you, take a while before returning their call and try to keep the conversation short if you choose to call them back. Refrain from going to places that you know they will be. If the two of you share mutual friends that's fine, however plan time to hang out with your mutual friend when you know the old friend will not be present. They will eventually catch on.
All of this should be done in a proper manner. I'm assuming you've already spoken with this old friend and communicated your concerns. If you haven't, I suggest you do so. This way, your old friend will not be confused as to why you've decided to distant yourself.
Never bad talk your old friend to new or mutual friends. You may just change your mind down the road and decide you want to reunite. You wouldn't want anything negative you've said to come back and haunt you. Keep it real but remain cordial.