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Why ask questions to answers you truly don't want to know? You may think you're ready to hear the truth but in all honesty you're not. You may believe you know the answer to the question and simply asking for confirmation but when the truth is not what you had expected, all hell breaks loose. Do yourself and your mate a favor and don't ask questions you're not ready to know the answers to.

Its all right to ask questions. After all you have the right to know. Just prepare yourself to hear the truth whether its good or bad. For example, ladies, don't ask your men whether or not you gained a little bit of weight if you know for a fact you did. You're putting him in an awkward situation. If he is the type of guy that's straight forward and says yes, you may get offended. If he's not a straight forward guy and tells you no to avoid confrontation or hurting your feelings, he's not being truly honest with you. And if he can't be honest with something as simple as that, imagine what else he's not being honest about. Men are just as guilty. For example, gentlemen, don't ask your women whether or not she thinks you are the best partner she's ever had in bed. Chances are you are not. If that's in fact the case and she tells you the truth, your manhood will be forever emasculated. If she decide not to tell you the truth, you will go on thinking you're the best thing since slice bread while she continues to Fantasize about her ex-lover. No one wins.

Its always better to know the truth but understand the truth may hurt. Next time you have a question you're absolutely dying to know the answer to, think about what the possible answers could be and brace yourself in the event that its bad.

Are there questions about your mate you really want to know but not sure you're ready for the truth? Are you the type of person that's direct or do you lie to avoid confrontation? Which do you find to be more affective, telling the truth or lying and why? Looking forward to hearing your comments.

If you knew that tomorrow would never come, how important would your today be? What would you do? What will truly matter and what wont? The truth is tomorrow isn't promised to anyone. We should live every day as if it were out last, no regrets.

Thousands of Haitians lost their lives last week in an event we (Haitians) will remember as one of the most devastating times in Haiti's history. Despite feeling helpless and burdened down with sorrow from the lost of love ones and the overall suffering of my country, it was a wake up call for me.

We get so caught up in life's distractions (work, school, luxury things, bills, money, vacations, etc) that we forget to live. We forget to be happy and enjoy life's simple pleasures such as laughing and being in the company of friends and family.  We take our freedom and all the opportunities presented to us for granted. We complain about how much we don't have instead of giving thanks for the things we do have.

I challenge you all to take time out of your busy schedule and make time for your love ones. Call your distant relatives and tell them how much you miss and love them. Make an effort to spend quality time with your immediate family (husband,wife, children). Visit your grandparents and show them how much you appreciate them. Make an effort to rebuild broken relationships. Life is too short and tomorrow isn't promised to any of us. Make today count. No regrets!

Absolutely, positively YES!! Has your mate ever said one thing but you know they meant the opposite of what they said? Have you ever asked your mate a question and they answered it with another question or gave an answer that had nothing to do with the question asked? Do you ever say to yourself "Wow, my man or woman is really crazy?"
Well, stop burdening your selves with doubt or worry because it is in fact truth; men and women speak different languages.

Its obvious that men are the simple creatures. They are normally direct in their approach. Whether its verbally or physically, their actions are typically clear. If a guy likes you, chances are you will know. He will either tell you or show you. Women on the other hand are more complicated. Our sensitive and emotional genes causes us to be more cautious with our hearts. This is why we think so much; sometimes too deep. Conflict arises in our relationships because we don't understand each other. There's nothing wrong with speaking different languages; as long as you're willing to learn, understand and appreciate your differences.

I can't speak for all women, but one thing that used to drive my husband up the wall were my mood swings. If he said or did anything to offend me in any way, my mood would change at the drop of a dime. Not sure why, I think I get that from my mama; lol,  but that's besides the point. Everything a woman does, know there's a reasoning behind every words or action.

Next time your woman has a mood swing, chances are you did something to cause that mood swing. Instead of acting nonchalant as if nothings wrong or simply ignoring her hoping that the mood swing would pass, ask her what's wrong and make a conscious effort to make things right.  I know what you're all thinking. Why not just tell him what he did wrong, right? Again, I'm a woman and we are the complicated breed so that solution would obviously be too easy.  If my man made me sad, I expect for him to figure it out and do what he needs to do to make me happy again. Period! Now this is just my story but its also an example how women think. We care about everything, it doesn't matter how small, it still matters. Nonetheless, my husband and I are still happy and in love because we took the time to learn and understand each other's languages. He knows I'm not crazy, I'm just being me.

What is it that your mate do to drive you crazy ? What do you do about it? I would love to hear your stories, thoughts and solutions. Please feel free to share with the rest of us as it will take a collaborative effort to understand the reasoning and thinking behind your mates actions and words.